Donny: Are these the Nazis, Walter?
Walter Sobchak: No, Donny, these men are nihilists, there’s nothing to be afraid of….These men are cowards.
Nihilism: the rejection of all religious and moral principles in the belief that life is meaningless.
Nihilism is a cop-out and a coward’s way of confronting their own existence. If you are reading a post like this, then most likely you are not a nihilist. However, I would like to put out there that avoiding the big questions and leading an undisciplined life equates to the same thing.
Champion Dads do not walk through life without a compass. We believe in something higher, something better, something within ourselves that is undefeatable. For some, religion is their North Star. For others, deep moral principles are their guidance. There is the highest value in both cases that directs everything in their life, which provides meaning.
And this is what Be A Champion Dad is all about: Working at becoming the best version of ourselves that is possible.
Champion Dads work to become mentally stronger, healthier, and content. Below are three uncomfortable (but smart) angles to think about to strengthen your moral compass and help identify more meaning in your life.
1. Seek out conflict in a healthy way. Your highest value really directs everything in your life. A sure-fire way to build and strengthen your values is to have a healthy amount of conflict. Conflict will allow you to reaffirm all you believe in, clean up the weak areas, and get stronger. By conflict, I mean seeking out and listening to opposing viewpoints. Listen not to win an argument but rather to understand. Good dialogue with conflict is just like working out. The more you do it, the stronger you get. This is hard if you are not in control of what triggers you. Keep an open mind. You will be surprised how much you will grow when you seek to understand an opposing viewpoint. One of the best teachers in life is confronting what you are not.
2. Listen to personal shame. I know this one sounds a little weird but hear me out. I am against shaming others, and I am against unnecessary personal shame. Yet, sometimes, personal shame happens all by itself, and in those moments, listen. Usually, what is happening is that your heart/mind is letting you know that you are not living up to your highest values. Listen, correct the situation, and move on. Everyone who holds high moral standards will feel some shame now and again. It’s ok, learn from it and forgive yourself. A little internal shame teaches us and provides a nudge back on the right track.
3. Take into account all of your limitations. Guess what? You cannot be anything you put your mind to. None of us can. It is also impossible to be everything to everyone. This is just not how we are designed. However, you can take stock of all of your limitations. This will help you understand where to grow and use the limitations to play to your strengths. I know my faults to a tee, and knowing this, I can avoid situations where they become a liability. Know yourself inside and out, and be honest in your assessment. This is how meaningful growth is done.
So there it is. Don’t be a nihilist or act like one. Go out there work hard, stand for something and kick some butt!
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